人生不如意事十之八九，可她也太慘了吧！

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看了秋瓷炫的婚禮誓詞，沒人不想捶死渣男吧。帖子可以戳閱讀原文看。

從小就沒人疼沒人愛，好不容易結婚，大齡生孩子走一遭鬼門關，沒幾年男的就出軌了。呵呵，就那聲明自己信嗎？

回過頭來看這個評論：

人生不如意事十之八九，可她也太慘了吧。

之前看洪欣和張丹峰也是，就那麼原諒渣男了？不過最近看狀態是掰了，小三還在他工作室？出軌只有零次和無數次，給我清醒一點！！！

今天看business insider的這篇：研究：「一日出軌，終身出軌」有科學依據。

先看雙語吧，再看筆記

Admitting you were unfaithful in past relationships is a gamble. "Once a cheater, always a cheater" is a phrase that can damage your reputation for a long time, if you're unlucky.

承認你在之前的情侶關係中不忠是一次賭博。如果你不走運的話，「一日出軌，終身出軌」 這句短語則會長期損害你的聲譽。

According to some scientific research, there could actually be some fact behind the idiom.

據一些科學研究，這個習語背後可能真的暗藏着某些事實。

A new study, published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behaviour, followed 484 participants in mixed gender romantic relationships. The researchers asked the participants to report their own "extra-dyadic sexual involvement" — having sexual relations with someone other than their partner — and also whether they had suspected their partners of infidelity in each romantic relationship they had been in.

近期，一項發表在《性行為檔案》期刊的研究跟蹤調查了484名參與者在男女婚戀關係中的情況。研究人員要求參與者上報他們的「劈腿」關係——與伴侶以外的人發生性關係——以及他們是否懷疑自己的伴侶在婚戀關係中不忠。

The results showed that people who had messed around in their first relationship were three times more likely to cheat in their next relationship compared to those who had stayed faithful.

結果表明，與那些對伴侶忠誠的人相比，那些在初戀就出軌的人在下一段感情中出軌的可能性要高出三倍。

Those who knew that their previous partners had cheated on them were twice as likely to have their next partners do the dirty on them too. Suspicion also appeared to be hard to shake, as people who suspected their first relationship partners of cheating were four times more likely to report suspicion in later relationships.

並且那些知道前任伴侶曾欺騙過自己的人，他們的下一任伴侶仍會出軌的可能性是其他人的兩倍。猜忌是難以被消除的，因為那些懷疑自己第一任伴侶的人在接下來的感情中會有四倍的可能性懷疑伴侶仍會出軌。

One reason for this could be the fact that when we lie, our brain actually gets used to it. This was the finding of a study published in Nature Neuroscience, which showed that telling small lies desensitises our brains to the associated negative emotions, which may encourage us to tell bigger lies in the future.

其中一個原因可能就是，大腦能夠習慣於撒謊。這項研究發表在《自然神經科學》雜誌上，研究表明撒一些小謊會使我們的大腦對相關負面情緒產生麻木感，這可能會鼓勵我們在未來撒下更大的謊言。

In other words, those little white lies we tell all the time might build up into bigger, more serious untruths.

換句話來說，我們一直撒下的那些善意的小謊也可能會累積成更大更嚴重的謊言。

In the study, participants were divided into pairs. One was shown a glass jar full of coins, and the other a blurry picture of the same jar. The participant with the jar was instructed to help their partner guess how many coins it contained.

在研究中，參與者被分成兩兩一組。研究人員向其中一位參與者出示了一個裝滿硬幣的玻璃罐，向另一位出示了同一個罐子的模糊圖像。擁有罐子的參與者被告知要幫助他們的搭檔猜出裡面裝了多少硬幣。

One group of participants were told they would get a cash prize if their partner overestimated the number of coins, leading them to lie and exaggerate. The researchers saw that the amygdala — the area of the brain responsible for emotions — responded when participants lied, but this response weakened when lies were repeatedly told.

其中一組參與者被告知，如果他們的搭檔高估了硬幣的數量，他們就會得到現金獎勵，這導致他們會盡力撒謊和誇大事實。研究人員發現當參與者說謊的時候，大腦中負責處理情感的杏仁核會做出反應，但當參與者經常說謊時，杏仁核的反應會減弱。

A similar thing could happen when somebody cheats on their partner. The first time they do it, they will probably feel terrible. However, if it happens again, they will feel slightly less bad, and so on. It could all be down to the biology of the brain, and what the amygdala is making you feel.

當一些人欺騙他們的伴侶時，也會發生類似的事情。當他們第一次對伴侶撒謊時，他們會感到難受。然而，如若再次撒謊，他們就不會感覺那麼糟等等。這一切都取決於大腦的生物學，以及杏仁核讓你感受到的東西。

In an interview with Elite Daily, researcher at Princeton Neuroscience and co-author of the study Neil Garrett said: "What our study and others suggest is a powerful factor that prevents us from cheating is our emotional reaction to it, how bad we feel essentially, and the process of adaptation reduces this reaction, thereby allowing us to cheat more."

在接受《精英日報》採訪時，普林斯頓神經科學系的研究員和研究合著者尼爾加勒特說：「我們的研究和其他研究表明，阻止我們欺騙他人的一個重要因素就是我們對欺騙的情緒反應，我們會感覺到有多糟糕，而適應欺騙的這個過程減少了情緒反應，從而使我們能夠再次撒謊。」

"With serial cheaters, it could be the case that they initially felt bad about cheating, but have cheated so much they've adapted to their ways and simply don't feel bad about cheating anymore."

「對於一些經常撒謊的人，起初他們可能會覺得欺騙他人的感覺並不好受，但當他們多次撒謊後，就已經適應了這種生活方式並且壓根不再對撒謊感到愧疚。」

He added: "Another possibility is that they never felt bad about cheating to begin with, so they didn't need adaptation to occur, they were comfortable with it from the get-go."

他補充道：「另一個可能性就是從一開始他們就對欺騙他人沒有什麼感覺，所以他們不需要適應，他們從一開始就感到十分自在。」

1. 「出軌」的多樣表達

① cheater

Rachel說「Once a cheater, always a cheater.」翻譯成「一日出軌，終身出軌」。

先看看 cheat (v.) 欺騙；劈腿 ▼

單詞原意是「作弊、欺騙」的意思，但用在情感關係間的話，就能衍生為「出軌、劈腿、背叛」。還有一個值得注意的地方，cheat 後面加不同的介詞，表達的意思會差十萬八千里！

A cheat on B (A背叛B)

Mary found out that her husband has cheated on her for 20 years, and they are filing a divorce lawsuit now.

Mary 發現她老公在外面偷吃了20年，現在他們在打離婚官司。

A cheat with B (A和B有一腿)

The fact that David is cheating with Doris is an open secret.

David 和 Doris 有一腿是個公開的秘密。

那名詞cheater就是出軌偷吃的人，呵，管不住下半身的人。

② mess around

The results showed that people who had messed around in their first relationship were three times more likely to cheat in their next relationship compared to those who had stayed faithful.

mess around本意是浪費時間；磨蹭；胡鬧，用在感情里也是不負責任的表現了。

③ do the dirty on sb

出軌表達怎麼那麼多，噁心！

Those who knew that their previous partners had cheated on them were twice as likely to have their next partners do the dirty on them too.

並且那些知道前任伴侶曾欺騙過自己的人，他們的下一任伴侶仍會出軌的可能性是其他人的兩倍。

do the dirty on sb 的英語解釋是「to behave unfairly towards someone, usually without their knowledge」。

舉個例子：

He can't forgive her for doing the dirty on him and having an affair with his best friend.

他無法原諒她瞞着自己跟他最要好的朋友有染。

2. 「從一開始」英語怎麼說？

He added: "Another possibility is that they never felt bad about cheating to begin with, so they didn't need adaptation to occur, they were comfortable with it from the get-go."

他補充道：「另一個可能性就是從一開始他們就對欺騙他人沒有什麼感覺，所以他們不需要適應，他們從一開始就感到十分自在。」

get-go替代beginning表示「開始，開端」：get going 是「出發啟程」的意思，

一般是用在日常口說，不算正式寫法：

I've gotta get going or I'll be late.

體育田徑場上，裁判會在起點喊："Get, set, go!"

也就是「就位，準備，開始！」

♂

久而久之，一首一尾的 get go

被抽出來變成了名詞，指「開始」。

所以慣用語 from the get go (也有很多人加上連字號，寫成 from the get-go

意思跟 from the very beginning 一樣：

The latest research shows that babies can be taught the difference between night and day from the get-go.

最新研究表明從一開始就可以教寶寶白天和晚上的不同。

我發現，最愛立寵妻人設跑老婆人設的最容易出軌，前面的文章不就是，老婆這麼好看還出軌，這些男的想上天？